In these chaotic times, we either work on our own optimism or we go down our ass and without brakes.
Very graphic.
I have found in intelligent optimism a way to save my life.
What was he saved from?
Of the dark chaos
What is this?
You get out of bed in the morning and you don't want to live, and often the people around you don't even know it.
How can you get out of it?
Focusing your mind on where you want to go. Taking the reins of your physical and mental health, because others won't save you, they can't, it's up to you.
What do you propose?
I like paper and pen. Every day I spend half an hour writing down my emotions, it's the first step: seeing them.
And if you don't know where you want to go?
Nothing happens, live in the present: it is much richer, but don't stop writing, it will make you aware of what you need. We have physical, mental and spiritual needs, and it seems that you are not satisfying some of them; solve it, little by little and with good handwriting.
Like writing down what works and what doesn't?
Yes. It allows you to set a short-term goal, something you feel capable of at that moment. And I work hard on accepting loss, of any kind. You need to be able to feel peace in uncertainty.
There is what is there.
Many people suffer because their illusion fades away. You have to accept the endings and be grateful for them, every gift has a beginning and an end.
Good approach.
This way of thinking can go a long way in alleviating the psychological suffering that is added suffering.
Where do you put the focus?
The most important thing is that we are aware that each person has a purpose.
Eight billion purposes?
We all like to be useful to others in different ways and I think it's life itself that chooses your purpose, but you can help.
What have you learned?
That each person must save himself, that the only sure thing is that nothing is safe, I learned that in one morning.
Those days that change your life?
I got up and went to the faculty; when I came back at noon, I found my whole family crying because my brother had made himself a coffee, gone to his room and taken his own life.
I'm so sorry, it's so hard.
Rafa was older than me, we shared a room since I was born, I have never spent more time with anyone in my life. I had psychological problems, like many of the people who write to me. I learned that today we are here and tomorrow we are not, that says a lot.
Yes, and it doesn't stop there.
I have it integrated in all my cells. I was already carrying a lot of trauma, which with a lot of work I have been able to overcome and find meaning, which is to help others.
What other traumas was he carrying?
My homosexuality. It hurt me that at the age of 6 I was told that I couldn't play with what I wanted to play, that they messed with me at school, that I forced myself to be with girls, that until I was 32 I wasn't with no boy
How did you overcome all those traumas?
With psychological treatment and work. I took pen and paper: “What do I want? What is my purpose?". And thinking and searching and writing and studying... But the work is constant, I've already accepted that I have to work on myself until I leave this world.
Do you have to have faith?
Of course, but faith can also be worked on, and sometimes it's as simple as spending half an hour meditating, connecting with yourself and thus connecting with everything. And ask I, when I didn't know, was addressing the universe.
His book The Power of Trusting You crossed borders.
I had found my way to help. It was an extraordinary learning experience, I didn't trust myself before, I would have changed for anyone, but I learned.
To walk along the pavement of the sun?
We all have reasons to be depressed. And the affirmations thing revolutionized me, it only depended on me: I wrote one that gave me energy and repeated it to myself all day.
I?
If you repeat several times "I feel calm and relaxed and accept whatever happens", you are training your brain.
He proposes to us that you love yourself.
This is very worn! But I propose exercises: note what gives you energy and what takes it away; be aware and accept your mistakes, and make peace with the past. Those moments of silence to reconnect with me are essential. And don't worry about "I don't know", in the long run it's comforting.
