Proudly old?
People nowadays try to look young even though they are 70 years old. We have not validated a model of an older woman, an old woman with glamor, wrinkles and gray hair and that she is in the world in a situation of her own right.
Is that why he vindicates the old word?
If we don't, we will always be suffering, trying to avoid it. Being old is a stage of the life cycle, it is not a misfortune, the misfortune is palmar at 30, but reaching 70, at 80, is lucky that history has given us.
Still, old doesn't sound very good.
As long as the word is loaded with stigma, as if we had to apologize for existing, we will always live angry, we can never be calm old women.
You have to resignify the word.
Yes, take away the drama, relativize and use humor a lot.
The 60s fall like a stone.
Between the 60s and the 70s we experienced a recovery of many elements that make us free and fun, we no longer believe many of the things that had been sold to us.
Why more fun?
We no longer dramatize, we relativize, and this gives us sympathy and joy; and having the security that friends give you, the ties, is something essential that men do not usually cultivate, perhaps that is why three out of four suicides are male.
The old are a hindrance to society.
In the cultural imaginary, old age is ugliness, an uninteresting person, but if you look around you see that this does not correspond to reality, there are a lot of interesting old women who participate in cultural and social life, we need to believe it .
Who had retained, they say.
We can be very elegant respecting the signs of age, with our gray hair, wrinkles and our body. We will have to define a beauty that makes us happy at 70, at 80... but society doesn't believe it.
Curious that a gift of 30 more years of life we live with shame.
And a lot of anger, because the body ages; no matter how much taichi or aquagim you do, it is another body, who said that it is not beautiful?...
What are the advantages of age?
The range of grays is widened, life is full of nuances if you are not dogmatic and have accumulated wisdom that allows you to become a mentor to young people, and live with humor.
A generation, yours, that has fought for the emancipation of women.
We got divorce, abortion, homosexual marriage, the law on gender violence, and now it's time to fight for a dignified old age.
Well said.
Inventing an old age that allows us to enjoy even if we see worse, hear worse and use a cane: that element of freedom.
The terror is that they park us in a nursing home.
Yeah, that's terrifying. There will be exceptions, but usually it means the loss of freedom in all areas: your sexuality, relationships, money and life, because they bypass you.
Do they treat you like a girl again?
It happens in everyday life, at the health center they tell you: “Grandma, come in”, suddenly you no longer have a first and last name, and they speak to you with diminutives: “Raise your little arm, give me the glasses”, an intolerable tone, a lack of consideration for our mental capacities.
Now the matter of sexuality in the elderly is something that is talked about a lot.
Yes, we can enjoy sexuality and we have destigmatized it, but be careful that it does not become another mandate! Those extra years are to be lived however you want.
It takes strength.
We must create among all new models of being old and appearing so. We have always struggled not to look like it, now I think we can be it with freedom, with style, with dignity, but without pretending to have tits like a 20-year-old, that's almost pornography.
Do we have to get rid of models?
Yes, we have already been tortured and sick with high heels, diets and cosmetic operations. We do not want to be dramatically young, but to affirm our age with dignity. It has cost us ours to get it.
What can we do for ourselves?
The first thing is to accept age, the changes in the body, and then set limits to everything that steals our own time, which we have been giving away as if we had plenty of it.
You usually realize that late.
Say your age with pride, you know that longevity is a gift, an achievement, not a catastrophe. Also, you feel old when you don't have projects, not when you get older.
Any suggestions?
Shower and wash your hair often, and remember to comb your hair back after lying down. Get rid of accumulated old junk, lighten your life. Surround yourself with pretty things. Don't ask permission to exist. Value yourself. Identify and recognize your knowledge.
