No, touching a woman's ass is not the same as raping her. It is not the same, but it is part of the same because, to a greater or lesser degree, man takes possession of something that he believes belongs to him, making use of a privilege that does not exist. Can the greeting with two kisses on the cheek be compared to these sexist attitudes?
The pandemic put the custom of two kisses on hold. The joy was short-lived, since the new normal immediately recovered them in the work environment, unfortunately. Women are increasingly rejecting two kisses at work, even though they fit into a widely accepted social protocol. Here friction does not make love. In my case, I usually anticipate the other's greeting and offer my hand, although the maneuver must be accurate and quick because it does not always go well.
Among strangers, social convention loses meaning as proximity is automatically forced between people who, it's not just that they don't know each other, it's just that perhaps they can't stand each other. Furthermore, the choreography often causes disgust: painful cheek impacts, accidental spikes, lack of coordination when moving the head, nervous laughter, a dead hand on the back... Why don't we end this dance of pathos? once and for all?
The debate has been going on for a couple of weeks in networks, chats and after-dinner conversations. Welcome. A tiktoker quickly signed up, although this time the one who launched it was the acting Secretary of State for Equality, Ángela Rodríguez, Pam. The two kisses, she said, “are part of the sexual culture in which we have grown up, of impunity and lack of consent.”
With all due respect, but touching your ass is not the same as having your cheek touched out of habit. Does it mean that now women should give prior permission if a man approaches with the intention of greeting like that? Do the cobra? What if it is the woman who takes the initiative? Ángela Rodríguez's doctrine presupposes that there is no possible physical exchange between man and woman devoid of sexual charge and that male sexuality always implies aggression or violence. Dear Pam, let's not overdo it either.
