Arguments are one more part of what makes up the daily life of a relationship, something natural that is not a problem in itself. What can become a factor that poisons the bond between both parties is its frequency and, especially, the way in which these verbal confrontations occur. One of the most frequent problems in couple arguments is when one of the two undertakes a defensive attitude.
Arguing with a defensive person will prevent any kind of solution or resolution of the conflict from being reached. This is because it will not be possible to express oneself effectively, making the message reach the other person and making them feel empathy, in order to assimilate and reflect on the situation. A focused defense reaction works like a shield, blocking out both the words and the feelings of the other. Something that can even further negative the discussion. How to avoid this?
Not admitting their own responsibility or putting the focus of the problem on the other person are some of the common attitudes of someone who argues from a defensive position. A situation that will be exasperating and frustrating for the other part of the couple. However, there are some tips that can be put into action to deal with these types of discussions.
