I understand those who are excited to hear about Rubiales. Those who accuse politicians of using it as a smokescreen to avoid talking about street rapists or amnesty. Those who believe that the video of the bus (Jenni Hermoso laughing, after the kiss) shows that there was no abuse, no crime, and nothing else to talk about. I understand them, but I think there is something they don't see. And it is the most important.
"Which (ex) head are you being reminded of today?" asked the writer Marta Jiménez Serrano on Twitter, and received an avalanche of answers. I myself remembered one who called us editors "my harem", and another (to whom we subordinates knew that he should never be left alone with a certain secretary, to whom he insisted on offering " put a floor on it"), which said: "Women are only good for carding, and not all of them!". Those present smiled politely (perhaps we would have laughed heartily if we had just won a world cup), but that disdain was fading. In the end, many of us, if we could, left: we preferred to take a professional step back and not suffer further humiliations. If you want more examples, read Gemma Herrero on JotDown: How should we explain the situation of footballers if we are surrounded by "Rubiales" in the newsrooms? Or remember that Rayo Vallecano had to endure a coach who, when training men, encouraged them to commit group rape, because "that's what really unites a team".
I think that a forced kiss is abuse, and that this abuse humiliates us all, whatever the abused does (I would understand if she didn't report it: it would be an ordeal for her), and whatever self-interested use some make of the matter I don't know if there was a crime, but does it only stop criminals? Isn't it enough to flaunt masculinity and arrogance?
The important thing is that this unfortunate matter is bringing to light countless situations that we women endure in silence. It's about time you guys didn't let them pass. That you support us, instead of laughing at the abusers thanks, scolding us if we get angry ("it's a joke!") or looking the other way. And if you're bored with the subject, stick with it.
