Arguments represent one of the hardest and least pleasant aspects of relationships as a couple. However, at the same time it is something inevitable. Disagreements, disagreements and clashes of opinion are a common denominator in interpersonal relationships. The key is knowing how to manage them in a healthy way for both parties. However it is not always so. In fact, sometimes they even carry out certain behaviors that can ruin a relationship, such as the law of ice.
Quite possibly, most people have had an argument with someone at some point in their lives and, after this confrontation, they are completely ignored by this person. As if it were some kind of punishment. This happens in relationships, but also among friends, family and even in the workplace.
The law of ice consists of a type of behavior that a person undertakes after having experienced a conflict with another. This tries to stop talking or paying attention to the other individual. An imposition of silence to cause physical and emotional isolation, the idea is to make that person invisible, completely ignoring what they say and avoiding them.
Although it may seem like a childish reaction, the law of ice is a considerably common practice, which demonstrates an inability to react and manage conflicts appropriately. Since it is not the same to establish a certain distance or space to let cool a situation derived from a conflict, to invalidate a person and their emotions through this practice.
In addition, it should not be forgotten that this behavior is a form of psychological abuse, since whoever carries it out is aware of the high level of stress, rejection and discomfort that it generates in the other person. Resorting to the law of ice can hide an inability to manage emotions, a manipulative and/or punishing intention, or even a need to attract attention.
This way of acting is not appropriate when it comes to overcoming conflicts and, usually, it will only cloud the relationship as a couple, since one of its pillars is being denied and hindered: communication. It is possible that, after a confrontation, a period of calm is needed to cool things down, a smart and emotionally healthy strategy. But this implies establishing a temporary and consensual distance, it is not the same as the law of silence.
Furthermore, once the situation has cooled and there has been time for reflection, the problem cannot be ignored. In the same way, it must be treated, more calmly, to resolve it in a healthy way, although the positions between people continue to be different. Otherwise, it will gradually become a bigger and bigger ball.
