Life in general and maternity and paternity in particular are marked by stages. And one of them is what happens when the children leave home. The so-called empty nest syndrome appeals to a feeling of nostalgia, longing and sadness when the descendants "fly from the nest" and become independent.
After several years – in some cases more and in others less – under the shelter of their parents, it is time to live their lives independently, outside the family home. Parents, accustomed to the routine and the company of their children, feel a sensation of emptiness, discomfort and sorrow.
To this is added that the emancipation of children usually coincides with other life changes such as retirement or menopause. However, it is common to feel discouraged, apathetic and even lost in the face of this new scenario that arises. If you miss your children, there are a number of tips to better cope with empty nest syndrome.
Acceptance is the basis for overcoming this circumstance. You have to assume that it is natural for children to go their separate ways from their parents and remember the good times with joy instead of sadness. Well, a very common symptom of empty nest syndrome is anchoring in memories of the past with nostalgia and this prevents us from moving forward.
If there is a good relationship between parents and children, contact will usually be maintained and this helps to alleviate the feeling of missing them. Depending on the distance that separates you, a regular phone or video call will help.
Also schedule regular visits, such as eating together on Sundays or going to visit the city where they have moved. Spending quality time together will be positive for your bond and will decrease longing.
The emancipation of children is an excellent opportunity to take care of the couple relationship that may have been relegated to the background as a result of raising children. This change in the family structure can lead to friction or arguments, so it is important not to neglect the relationship, maintain fluid communication and make plans together that excite you. Also, you will also have more free time to make plans with your friends and thus keep yourself entertained.
Of course, self-care is another key pillar to feel better in this situation. Do some activity or hobby or learn a new skill. With this you will occupy your mind, you will pass the time and you will stay excited about that new project or hobby. Go to painting classes, go on excursions through nature, learn a new language… Whatever you fancy!
If you feel bad, don't keep your negative emotions to yourself. The best thing is to talk about it with your loved ones, be it your partner, friends or your own children. Letting off steam, feeling heard and supported will make you feel better. Likewise, he assesses the convenience of going to psychological therapy to overcome this pothole.
