The porn scandal is overwhelmingly hypocritical. After all, pornography is the way to experience sex that best fits the values we collectively espouse since individualism became the tyrant we elected to rule our lives. When the self becomes the sole master and lord of everything around us - including other people - it becomes nothing more than a tool to be used to satisfy instincts and desires.
Pornography is the pinnacle of this way of approaching one's relationships with the environment. At the end of the day, and as much as the sex industry tries to convince us that it's another art form, porn is nothing more than an endless collection of pieces of meat in the service of individual who consumes them with his eyes.
Let's not be narrow now, we also live in this world. And we know, without having to ask anyone, that sexuality has a thousand folds in which everyone can hide. Just accepting the complexity of the mechanisms that turn instinct into desire does not contradict the previous statements.
The ease with which children and teenagers access porn is now a major concern. Tender brains swallowing all kinds of aberrations and humiliations in which sex, more than an instinct educated by human experience, is only an animalized experience of using and abusing other bodies, mainly women.
The question, yet to be answered in proven terms, is to what extent this already widespread consumption of pornography from such a tender age is adversely modifying the behavior of young people and adolescents in the development of their sexual habits.
Is the increase in the number of sexual crimes committed by teenagers a direct consequence of porn consumption? Is the sex addiction of younger and younger individuals solely the fault of what they see on mobile devices? The sexual practices that bring regret and feelings of guilt, despite having been carried out with consent, can be explained only by the desire to make real what has been seen first on the screen?
Since we are dealing with the first generation of young people with unlimited and permanent access to pornography, there will be time to answer these questions with evidence that goes beyond intuition and prejudice. Or both.
Equally, other issues are now of interest. One of them is, in view of the results, the failure of the sex education we provide to our minors. We prioritize a mechanistic view of sex, aimed at full self-satisfaction. The limit is only in the consent of the other party and in the hygienist's imperative to prevent diseases.
Armed with these simple guidelines, we push children to experiment at ever earlier ages. But we say nothing or little about other more complex and equally basic tools. For example, that not everything you can imagine is convenient, that consent may not be enough when we talk about different practices or that sex between humans generates emotional bonds that must be treated with respect.
Back to the beginning, we educate the young man so that he can understand himself and dance on his own. The others are there for you to use. Of their bodies, when we talk about sex.
In our society, any restraint on the pleasure principle is understood as a regression that must necessarily come from reactionary minds. And this, which could perhaps be the case when we are on the level of adults (and even on this ground it would be debatable), is not so when children and teenagers are at the center of the conversation.
But it's a lost war. The beatery of the past is such a heavy slab, that it prevents a discourse on sexuality that anoints the thesis of the necessity and goodness of the taming of desire to be considered compatible with the customs of the 21st century so as not to be governed by the crotch And porn is nothing more than the place in which this custom of sex understood as the exclusive territory of the self becomes more visible.
Children and teenagers just follow us, they have always wanted to be like adults as soon as possible. So maybe we shouldn't be so surprised by what happens. Or maybe it is. But more from ourselves than from our children and teenagers.
