Ego, competitiveness, stubbornness or simply the determination to be right. Getting entangled in a deadlocked discussion at the point of deciding who is the winner is one of the most common reasons for conflict in couples. Settling in an attitude based on always wanting to win the arguments is not only useless, since, in addition, the topics debated are usually gray, not black or white. Rather, it represents one of the most obvious behaviors that can ruin a relationship, especially if they are repeated over and over again without remedy.
In social relationships, including those of a loving nature, it is common and even healthy to disagree on many issues. Each person has an opinion and point of view, arisen through their own experiences and experiences. So that the appearance of these disagreements, sometimes turned into conflicts, is inevitable. So you have to learn to manage them properly. To achieve this, the key lies in the understanding and empathy that will develop between both parties.
When a discussion stops being an exchange of opinions and becomes a fight to see who imposes their "truth" on the other person, it falls into a negative behavior that must be avoided. And by the time this becomes the normal dynamic, the result is a couple that is constantly arguing.
Before this atmosphere of tension and power struggle is generated, both parties must adopt an attitude of active listening to understand the point of each one of them. Precisely the main trigger for these conflicts is based on the fact that one part of the couple does not feel heard by the other. There is no empathy, and without it, the common bond will weaken more and more.
This lack of understanding and empathy has both a root and a consequence, which worsens over time. It is about the absence of emotional communication, that is, emotions are repressed and there is a silence of expressiveness that affects mutual trust. Not feeling heard, understood and safe with someone will make that person not decide to open up or communicate freely. Precisely this is, at the same time, one of the reasons why discussions turn into a battle in which there can never be winners.
One of the most important tasks that a healthy couple must carry out is to establish limits, which allow respect and mutual appreciation. This is essential in all kinds of situations and circumstances and will help build the values that every relationship needs. Above all, communication.
