The scandal with porn is overwhelmingly hypocritical. At the end of the day, pornography is the way of experiencing sex that best fits with the values we collectively espouse since individualism became the tyrant we elect to govern our lives. When the self becomes the sole lord and master of everything around us – including other people – it becomes nothing more than a tool to use to satisfy instincts and desires.
Pornography is the culmination of this way of approaching one's relationships with the environment. After all, and no matter how much the sex industry tries to convince us that it is another form of art, porn is nothing more than an infinite collection of pieces of meat at the service of the individual who consumes them with his eyes.
Let's not act narrow, we also live in this world. And we know, without having to ask anyone, that sexuality has a thousand folds in which each one can hide. Only that accepting the complexity of the mechanisms that convert instinct into desire does not contradict the previous statements.
Porn is now of great concern about the ease with which children and adolescents access it. Tender brains devouring all types of aberrations and humiliations in which sex, more than an instinct educated by human experience, is only an animalized experience of use and abuse of other bodies, mainly women.
The question, yet to be answered in proven terms, is to what extent this already widespread consumption of pornography from such a tender age is modifying for the worse the behavior of young people and adolescents in the development of their sexual habits. Is the increase in the number of sexual crimes committed by adolescents a direct consequence of porn consumption? Is the sex addiction of increasingly younger individuals solely to blame for what they see on mobile devices? Are sexual practices that entail regret and a feeling of guilt, despite having been carried out with consent, explainable only by the desire to make real what was first seen on the screen?
As we are facing the first generation of young people with unlimited and permanent access to pornography, it will take time to answer these questions with evidence that goes beyond intuition and prejudice. Or both.
Likewise, other questions are of interest. One of them is, in view of the results, the failure of the sexual education that we provide to our minors. We favor a mechanistic view of sex, aimed at full self-satisfaction. The limit is only in the consent of the other party and in the hygienic imperative to prevent diseases.
Equipped with these simple guidelines, we push children to experiment at increasingly younger ages. But we tell you little or nothing about other more complex and equally basic tools. For example, not everything that can be imagined is convenient, that consent may not be enough when we talk about certain practices or that sex between humans generates emotional bonds that must be treated with respect. Back to the beginning, we educate the young man so that he stews it and he eats it. The others are there so you can use them. Of their bodies, when we talk about sex.
In our society, any limitation to the pleasure principle is understood as a regression that must necessarily come from reactionary minds. And this, which could perhaps be the case when we look at the level of adults (even in that area it would be debatable), is not the case when the center of the conversation is children and adolescents.
But it is a lost war. The prudery of the past is such a heavy burden that it prevents a discourse on sexuality that supports the thesis of the necessity and goodness of taming desire so as not to be governed by the crotch, from being considered comparable with the customs of the 21st century. And porn is nothing more than the place in which this custom of sex understood as the exclusive territory of the self becomes more visible. Children and adolescents only follow us, they have always wanted to look like adults as soon as possible. So maybe we shouldn't miss each other so much. Or maybe yes. But more about ourselves than about our minors.
