Queen Elizabeth II's Platinum Jubilee had an unexpected protagonist: Prince Louis, the youngest son of Prince William and Kate Middleton, stole all eyes. His constant movements, his gestures, his hands covering his ears during the Royal Air Force flight and even his defiant grimaces at his mother turned him into a miniature version of the rebellious part of royalty. british.
Four-year-old Louis is fifth in line to the throne, behind his grandfather the Prince of Wales, his father the Duke of Cambridge and his siblings Prince George of Cambridge and Princess Charlotte of Cambridge.
Although the Royal Family moves under strict protocols, the images of the child showed that certain children's issues do not know titles and that is how Louis tested the patience of his mother, Kate Middleton, Duchess of Cambridge.
Sofía Lewicki, a perinatal psychologist and parenting specialist, mentioned to Clarín that there are tools for mothers and fathers when it comes to cultivating patience. In turn, she added that they should be taken as a practice and not as an exception.
The author of So bad we did go out. How to stop educating to start raising (Planet) explained that the collapse, in most cases, has more to do with adults than with children, and with the few resources they have to respond to these situations. In that context, she explained:
You have to aim at the cause, try to have the territory prepared and anticipate emotional outbursts, because then getting out of it is much more expensive than preventing it. Sometimes we get so frustrated as adults that it makes us lose patience and that leads to the relationship with the child.
We have to see if we have our basic needs covered, how we are asleep, what is happening to us, if we are going through a difficult time. It is very important to ask for help and explain to our children what is happening to us.
Before we act and say something, we have to ask ourselves a question. The question invites us to think, to connect with our prefrontal cortex and to be able to get out of the action, the cry, the action. We have a baggage, a story that has to do with our upbringing, with how our parents responded, with authoritarianism, with violence, with rewards/punishments.
The first thing we have to do is put a stop to thinking and to avoid acting from that place that all it does is take us to places that will generate more deregulation and will go on an emotional escalation from which it is very difficult to get out.
If we are very overwhelmed, breathe and go through the emotion that we are experiencing. We have to be compassionate with ourselves. Since we were educated with reward and punishment systems, it costs us a lot.
But, sometimes, you have to understand that it is part of the change and of being able to establish new forms. We are learning. Reflecting and learning is also part of mapaternity.
There are times when we are going to need to leave, isolate ourselves. It is important to tell them, for example, 'I need to leave because I don't want to treat you badly, because I'm going to say something that you don't deserve and that I'm going to regret later'. We can go to the bathroom, wash our face, freshen up and get out of that moment in which we are about to respond from that place.
It is very important that this is a practice. This seems like advice for the moment, but I consider it a practice to exercise all the time. Being able to cultivate our patience and not act from the collapse of emotional disconnection is a challenge and a daily practice. Otherwise, in the long run, transcendental changes will not be generated.
It is important to record what we feel in the body and how we stay. If the feeling is that of a battlefield, it is good to review.
Parenting and learning should be a kind situation for everyone. Adults have to learn from that, learn to treat and treat each other with kindness and respect, which is something we don't know.
