How to agree to an open relationship with your partner

Couples who have been together for a while may find that they do not complement each other in certain aspects of their lives.

Oliver Thansan
Oliver Thansan
14 March 2023 Tuesday 04:23
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How to agree to an open relationship with your partner

Couples who have been together for a while may find that they do not complement each other in certain aspects of their lives. But the will to live other experiences does not mean that it is a sufficient reason to end up leaving your relationship. It is possible to please personal desires without giving up the stability that a couple brings. Open relationships are an alternative that allows its members to satisfy some of their demands with other people while reinforcing those aspects in which there is mutual understanding.

The first requirement to open a relationship is that both members really want it. The fear of losing a partner should not condition one to accept the conditions set by the other out of inertia. It is a decision that the two have to agree on so that the relationship is maintained over time and they can enjoy and benefit from it or, otherwise, they will regret it and it will only bring more wear and suffering.

Perhaps you have reached a point where you have perspectives on the affective or sexual planes that have no place in your relationship. Monotony or boredom can create the need to receive emotional stimuli or share hobbies that your partner does not like with other people. The different sexual philias or the degree of desire are other aspects that can be compensated thanks to an open relationship.

In reality, there does not have to be a determining motive to open a relationship. Some people conceive of other ways to have a healthy and stable relationship other than monogamy. It can also be a solution when it comes to coping with long-distance relationships. However, chronic dissatisfaction or loss of admiration or eroticism are signs that instead of being an open couple, you should consider leaving the relationship.

Non-monogamous relationships are not without rules. The codes and agreements that have governed during your relationship do not disappear, but are modified to adapt to this new circumstance. The two will establish the new rules by mutual agreement, compliance with which or not will set the limits of respect. The opening of the relationship should never be due to a unilateral decision or be done with the aim of increasing the ego of one of its members. Sincere and honest communication and common sense will do the rest.

The rules will have the objective of protecting the main couple and will be adjusted to the degree of openness that you want to give to the relationship. For example, you can agree that the couple can only open up sexually and not emotionally. You can also decide to incorporate a third party into the relationship, as long as you express it and you are both present. Or if you want to have sex separately, to be able to do it with strangers and not repeat it twice with the same person. The additional rules that you impose on yourself will vary according to your needs, but remember that you can consider making the pertinent changes whenever you wish.