Sílvia Abril has reached 50. In fact, she has been in her fifties for a couple of years now, not in her fifties. “I’m in the middle of my life,” she says. And perhaps that is why she has decided to look back at herself, who has a short memory, to review the episodes and anecdotes that have led her to where she is now. The result is the book Losses of Laughter, note that Losses has an accent. The actress, who reached every home first with Homo Zapping and then with many other programs, admits it openly: “I piss myself laughing much more easily now than when I was 20, which I already did sometimes, which does not stop “about being a bitch at my job,” confesses the comedian, laughing at herself, which she loves, and this time keeping her sphincter at bay.
It is one of the consequences of entering menopause, a topic she addresses in the book, although she does not identify with the word. “Meno, minor, and pause, like a vital pause, don’t go with me.” And she adds solemnly: “I am a metacyclical woman, a new concept promoted by Lydia Zimmermann that indicates that we are facing a new cycle, with changes,” she clarifies. “Our lives do not end when menstruation leaves us, far from it.” What’s more, there is a whole other half of her, which she faces by taking care of her body through sports, healthy eating and her secret: cultivating the macrobiota.
April recognizes that she has not suffered the crisis of 50, nor the crisis of 40, nor the crisis of 30… But that does not mean that she is not aware of the passage of time. “Sometimes, when I look in the mirror or see a photo, I say to myself: ‘Ostia, am I this?’, but with the joy of being alive.”
He assures that he does not regret anything, although in the book he has preferred to change some names so as not to hurt sensitivities, such as that of his exes. “I have many, I have left many,” she confesses. And what does Andreu Buenafuente have that makes him stay with him for more than a decade? “He’s a great guy, we fit in, although it’s also true that we met when we were a little mature and you’re more confident, but this doesn’t mean he has to last a lifetime.” At the moment, he doesn’t take into account that he keeps leaving socks on the floor from time to time. “Lower the toilet lid, chump,” he reproaches him at home. “He makes a terrible effort to update himself, and so do I, because in the book I talk about the difficulty of being a feminist, since we carry machismo deep in our skin. When I go to Madrid, I do the exercise of not calling him so he remembers to pick up our daughter from basketball, which is very difficult for me. But I am a feminist, I loose ballast.”
And as things are, she has realized that she replicates, in a way, her mother’s pattern. “One day I found myself saying to Joana: ‘There are lentils, if you want them, you eat them, and if you don’t, you leave them.’ And I thought I had been eaten by my mother’s spirit, that is, everything I said I wouldn’t do I’m starting to do,” she becomes alarmed. “Never say of this water I will not drink or of this bread I will not eat, she also said,” and now she knows why. Of course, she looks like an updated version of her mother. “I am a woman of my time, competitive, who respects herself, loves herself and who fights for her life partner to take her place and act as a 50/50 father,” both when Joana was little and now that she She is already a preteen. “All the time I keep telling myself that it’s the hormones, that it’s not her, it’s the hormones,” she consoles herself with amusement, and adds hopefully: “If the foundations are well laid, I trust that it will be an even interesting stage.”
What is clear is that, after 50, “one is no longer interested in nonsense” and priorities change. “I love enjoying friends and family, I protect spaces for us.” And even more so with a work schedule as busy as yours. These days we can see her in the movie Alimañas, she begins to rehearse the play Waiting for Mister Bojangles and will soon go on tour with Las asambleístas (Those who stumble) by Aristophanes, a classic if there ever was one. Few things resist Sílvia Abril: “I haven’t managed to meditate yet, but maybe at 60 I’ll levitate.” If she puts her mind to it, in ten years we will see her flying.
